Yes, dear, I know that having a fulfilling life is not an easy formula. In this blog, we uncover the truths, so we won't tell you that you won't totally struggle in life, even with huge bombs of enlightenment and lots of personal development. Life requires effort.
Otherwise, we would all already flow in the glory of it and would not need to read some kind of blog posts about self-growth. Dah!
But did you ever stop to think what exactly is the main difficulty in managing life?
Most often it is not the issue that we do not know at all what to do. Though, at times we do not.
The difficulty lies into the paradoxes appearing in life.
Should I run or fight?
Should I start or do not even try?
Should I be friends or not?
Should I quit or stay?
Should I agree or disagree?
It is all about choosing between two totally opposite sides.
Paradoxes of life.
Constantly questioning ourselves, if we make the right choice.
At times one answer is clear, at other times another seems more appropriate.
And there are times, when the answer seems to be so unappropriated, confusing, loathsome or even devastating that choosing might create the waves of emotional burnout.
How to find that middle ground, the line of limitations and boundaries. Does someone even know where these lines lie?
Of course, questioning paradoxes and overthinking “what to choose?” happens to everyone. Yes, even the positive spiritual folks that seem to be in full harmony vibe every single day.
Well, maybe some situations do not appear to them as an overwhelming bomb (as they have learned their nervous system to calm down through various mindfulness practices), but these situations still give them some challenging sparks.
Let's be real, we all need to make decisions and big decisions are always in some specific ways uncomfortable. For EVERYONE.
Knowing the paradoxes and fitting everything to create a full puzzle image is not easy.
Choosing between two extremely different options, especially when the answer will determine your further path, is absolutely stressful.
I knowm, you probably would want to hear something else like “ in a positive and successful life stress does not exist” or “ it is absolutely possible to resolve this without any kind of stress”.
Well, that would be be plain lies.
Actually, stress is not the real enemy. Stress is your “ be aware” card. Nothing else. It constantly saves you from physical and emotional pain.
If you realize, recognize and befriend it, this card will not feel so dangerous anymore.
However, we still need to ensure not to overuse it too match.
In fact, we are the creators of most of these paradoxes. The paradox is just the image we give it to be.
That means that most of the time, we are not truly afraid of paradox itself, we are afraid of our creations.
Therefore, constantly remember that you are the creator, not the participant. Always be careful about what you seek to create.
And if that creation occurs with drastic choices - listen to your intuition. It always has an answer.
Most importantly, keep questioning yourself what images are you creating, what meanings are you giving to your choices.
You can choose right only when you clearly know your personal "WHYs?". And each life situation is just a mirror asking us to look deeper at our "WHY's".
Create. Investigate. And keep growing.