Why Saying "YES TO ALL" is NOT THAT Healthy
Do you think we should say "YES" to everything?
The world is full of advices that we should. After all, if big successful people give us this advice, it should be true, shouldn't it?
But, can we open our minds for a little possibility that it might not be true? Just for a tiny winy little one, please, Queen.
Most "say yes to all" advices focus on the argument that we should say yes to every opportunity.
But is every opportunity truly related to your depest desires? Or it is just something plainly for the achievement, to put it on the CV as a badge of honour?
An opportunity is an invitation to make a decision. It is the evaluation. Evaluation of how that thing/project/event would fit your core dream, your values and belief systems.
Opportunity is not about "saying yes to all in order to grow". It is about asking your gut and intuition, if that is something that you truly want to do.
I mean, how much time it would take you to do all the things to which you have said "YES"?
Actually, if you say "YES" to everything, you'll always be there to please the others. Not yourself.
Pleasing others is nice and certainly spiritual and yes we should all be a little bit more nicer to each other and radiate some loving sparkles.
But you cannot agree with every single preposition. After all.... you have a life too. Just reminding you of that, deary.
We cannot be givers, without being getters too and sometimes we just need to get more energy in order to give more.
And, yes, that definitely includes saying NO to things. We truly cannot say yes to everything.
Honestly, saying “NO “ is just as freaking important as saying "YES". Because it shows your priorities, your values and your boundaries.
In fact, saying "NO" is freaking liberating. Try it out, with a big scream. How does that feel???
I am gonna be bold and argue that in today's world we say much more "YES" than "NO".
How we can prove it? Well, let's check how many miserable, unhappy people we have on earth. These are all the ones that say "YES" to things they do not truly want.
Not a nice life, buddy. Not at all.
Also, let's make one thing clear. Saying "NO" does not make you a bad girl. Saying "YES" and not meaning it does.
Cause you certainly gonna complain about it to someone...Obviously very very accidentally...
Or maybe unconsciously gonna show your discomfort and uneasiness. Believe me, people see.
And, in truth, what is the point to start something, if you are not totally in it? Life is all about being present, not being half way there.
You might also be that person that thinks that you might loose good opportunities, if you won’t say yes to everything.
Truth is, you certainly will.
Life is about choosing and prioritizing, so definitely you will gain and loose something all the time.
This is is how life goes and it will also go like that in the future, does not matter we want it or not.
In truth, a good option and opportunity does not really mean that it is a good option FOR YOU.
Maybe it is a good option only for a short while, but it might not be something that aligns to your values and future dreams.
What if you are simply working towards your dreams and cannot take more, even if it is a good option?
Juggling too many things at once is also not the best success idea.
Over-burn does not solve anything. Just gives you stress with annoying side effects.
And what if the Universe is actually testing you? Testing your ability to decline, because it wants you to focus on your dreams. Who knows maybe Universe likes dark humour from time to time too.
Be healthy and stop throwing in all the “YESes" to everyone and everywhere.
Do not feel as an assholish Queen to say “NO". Because you are not one.
What about seeing "a NO" as a divine respect of your own time? Respect that allows you to respect the things that are already present in your life.
Respect for your true dreams and vision.
Because the world needs you to share it. And that can happen only with a bunch of "NOs"